What shall we do when we receive criticism?

26 April 2020 by
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Everybody wants to please somebody. It seems to be our basic instinct to make us accepted by others, since we have always done the same throughout evolution and history.


In the prehistoric age the individual’s survival depended on being a useful member of the tribe and keeping its rules. If he didn’t do it, his penalty was exclusion, which is a painful feeling nowadays as well for everybody.


But the situation is different in the present era, so sometimes it is worth asking ourselves a few questions like: Do we really want to belong to, where we were excluded from and where we are facing persistent attacks? Do we really have to feel bad, because we didn’t meet the probably unreal expectations? And how should we react in such situations?


  • All students have already experienced a similar feeling, for example when they got bullied for their clothes. But the point isn’t what others think, one should feel good in their own skin. By the way, there is no such thing that everyone likes. Then why not wear something, which suits one’s own taste?


  • Many live in their relationships according to the expectations of their spouse, while they forget what they really want. Thus they often find themselves in a poisonous situation, where they have to face negative opinions every day. But if we don’t respect and appreciate ourselves, how can we expect from others to respect us? So it is worth putting our feet down.


  • Others meet regular complaints in their business, which they have to handle somehow. Customer satisfaction is important because of the success of the business, so even if the other party is not right, occasionally it is advisable to make a compromise.


  • Sometimes it can be really useful to listen to others ‘negative opinion, as we can learn from them and use it for self improvement. However, meanwhile we should keep our positive characteristics in mind, since all of us are precious.


  • And if we feel we had an unjustified affront, then we should act against it in any case.


“Staying silent is like a slow growing cancer to the soul and a trait of a true coward. There is nothing intelligent about not standing up for yourself. You may not win every battle. However, everyone will at least know what you stood for—YOU.” Shannon L. Alder



(The Hungarian translation is available on www.onbizalomfejlesztes.hu.)


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